Personal Responsibility: Week 24 Master Keys

The Joy Of The Journey began six months ago when I set up this blog and initially sub titled it If Not Now — When?  It wasn’t something I had planned to do  when I decided to participate in the study of Charles Haanel’s classic The Master Key System.  However in order to participate I was required to blog about the experience once a week.  Approximately 300 like mind souls started the same journey and for whatever reason roughly 200 remain.

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Many times when we start something we don’t complete it because the results don’t come quick enough….Many people want to learn to play an instrument, also many people every year go on diets to lose weight….Most people quit before they even start.  We live in an instant gratification, high tech world.  Were are parents or grandparents better off?  High touch vs high tech.  I don’t know for I have no opinion on that.

What I do know is That when one journey ends …… if in fact, if  it ever does….. another Call to Adventure begins

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We all have to decide how to solve the

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The ultimate goal is to become a self directed independent thinker for life is not a spectator sport.  The best way to predict the future is to create it.  The Master Key System has provided me the tools.  I am forever grateful from the bottom of my heart.

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The Joy of The Journey will continue…………….Big hugs to all……………

 

 

 

Huge Mistake: Week 23 Master Keys

Two weeks ago I ended my blog post with Finish Strong.

The more I thought about it the more I realized…….nothing……..could be further from the truth…..It’s not about finishing this 6 month long journey, not even close.  And it never really was although there were many time I thought it was.

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No this course was about transformation, learning how to think and become a self directed individual living life’s purpose with intention.

I have been given the tools along with the navigation system that will allow me to do exactly that going forward.

I have been given the key.  All I have to do is open the door and walk through.

Stay the Course

The journey continues.

Looking Back: Week 22 A….Master Keys

Going back to week one we were asked to read the following everyday for the duration of this course.  It is called the Blueprint Builder.

First. I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Definite Purpose in life, therefore, I DEMAND of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action.

Second. I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for thirty minutes daily, upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture of that person.

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Third. I know through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object back of it, therefore, I will devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of SELF-CONFIDENCE.

Fourth. I have clearly written down a description of my DEFINITE CHIEF AIM in life, and I will never stop trying, until I shall have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment.

Fifth. I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon truth and justice, therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them, and in myself.

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The Journey continues

The Home Stretch: Week 22 Master Keys

Back in week one on Oct 2 2013 I wrote the following.

So today begins a new day and a new challenge. I am embarking on a six month study of the Master Key System facilitated by Mark Janusewski, mentor, educator. There are many today who claim The Master Key System is the greatest book ever written. Covering everything from how to create abundance and wealth, to how to get healthy, stay fit and live the life of your dreams … the author Charles F Haanel leaves no stone unturned.

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I am excited because I know that all change comes from within and with it comes all of lifes blessings.  I will be sharing my journey, my experiences, my hopes and my learning.

Today is March 7, 2014 five months later and this phase of the journey is rapidly coming to an end although it will never really end, for transformation and personal growth is a life long process.

I have learned much more then I had anticipated, have grown, stretched, gotten very uncomfortable at times and have wanted to throw in the towel at times.  However, I remained committed and am very grateful for the MKMMA alliances and the mentorship provided by Mark J, Davene, and Trish.

Back in 1973 a horse by the name of Secretariat accomplished something that has yet to be repeated in winning the Triple Crown.  He set race records in all three races that still stand today.  In his final race, he won by a record 31 lengths.  His jockey could have slowed him down and coasted to the finish but he didn’t…. he just let him run and run he did.

 

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So now it’s our turn…………………………

Finish Strong

 

Rushing Personal Growth: Week 21 Master Keys

Sometimes I get  discouraged  because my work on personal growth isn’t going as quickly as I would like. Has that ever happened to you?

Many people are interested in doing all they can to develop strong and positive self-esteem, and that is a very good thing. But sometimes, there is a tendency for folks who have just started the process of deliberate personal growth to take themselves a bit too seriously.  Getting from point A to point B was never meant to be a straight line.

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They may find themselves going abruptly from relative non-awareness to total and complete introspection. They hold a magnifying glass up to every thought, feeling, act and relationship.

Perhaps these folks need to relax and take it easy. Take the changes a step at a time, a day at a time. Undergoing a transformation is a gradual process, so you don’t need to pressure yourself to get there all at once.

This is a six month journey not a six week journey.  And at the end of the six months we have the remainder of our lives to continue on this path of self discovery and enrichment.

Great artists and craftsmen work steadily on their creations. They don’t get frantic over completion. As the old saying goes, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” Give yourself time and space to develop and rework your self-picture. In the meantime, relax and enjoy yourself. Get involved in activities you like and have fun.

 

1234996_10201347842830487_973550911_nIf you are tempted to measure your progress, use a broad time range. See yourself today as compared to five or ten years ago, but always keep your eye on where you want to be. And remember the story of the tortoise and the hare – slow and steady wins the race. As long as you work consistently, you will get there!

And remember when you cross the finish line the real journey has just begun.

 

 

Perfectionism: Week 20 Master Keys

The journey continues.  Actually it will never really end and this week I find myself reflecting back to a couple of questions that were asked a few weeks back.  The two questions were the type that kind of come out of nowhere and hit you on the side of the head.  A sucker punch if you will.  I wasn’t ready for them, however they have had a major impact on my thinking.

The first question:  What am I pretending not to know?

Think about it…..Really think about it.  I did.  I thought about it for days and kept asking myself that question over and over.

Isaac Newton’s first law of motion states, ” an object at rest stays at rest, and an object in motion  stays in motion.”  My natural tendency is to resist change.  This results in a state known as inertia which leads to doing nothing.

Often times this comes from an underlying belief for everything having to be perfect………before taking on the task or project.

Now, perfectionists will try to tell you that their relentless standards drive them to levels of productivity and excellence that they could not otherwise attain. But often just the opposite is true. Perfectionists usually accomplish less, because they waste so much time paralyzed by fear of failure. They will not start anything until they know how to finish it without any mishaps, and that may be a mistake. While perfectionists seem to have a positive attitude toward whatever they are doing, sometimes it is creative avoidance with a different face.

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The non perfectionist may not know exactly how they are going to do something, however they keep their vision of the end-result uppermost in their minds and forge ahead anyway. They believe that they will get the help they need, find the resources they need, and figure out the how-to’s as they go – and they usually do.

If for some reason they do not achieve the outcome they wanted, high-performance people don’t waste energy beating themselves up about it. They simply learn from the experience and move on. High performance people are resilient and persistent, stay on target, and have confidence in their ability to see it through.

The second question that struck a cord:  What would the person I intend to become do next?

Perhaps it is time to let go of the dream of unattainable perfection.

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Guest Blog Post: Week 19 Master Keys

The following was written by Richard Brooke…..http://blissbusiness.com

Have you ever seen the little children in undeveloped, impoverished countries on the news? Notice how happy they seem, unless they are starving or sick (which many of them are). Have you ever wondered how that can be? How can children with so little – and with so little future – seem so happy, carefree and full of joy?

 

Do you remember what you were like as a small child … say from the age of 3 to about 10 or 12? Do you remember what you daydreamed about? What you loved doing, playing, or learning? Do you remember anything about what you dreamed you would do when you grew up? Do you remember what was important to you? Was it Play … Winning … Friendship … Family … Nature … Adventure … Cooking … Creating … Caretaking?

The most authentic and, dare I say, personally evolved people on the planet are children.

When we were children, anything was not only possible, but expected. Anything we wanted, we believed we could have – and have right now. Anything we wanted to do, we believed we could do right now, without any interference or negotiating. The world was our oyster. It could be no other way. Not because we were insecure, selfish clods, but because our very existence made the world our candy store, in which we had unlimited credit.

From that perfect cocoon, we developed a natural and permanent set of preferences about how we want to experience life. Some of us want adventure, others safety; some creativity, others caretaking. These are preferences often referred to in today’s psychology as our core values – those values that define our happiness, our peace, and our power. As long as we get to do these things and embrace these preferences, we are in our groove and life is good – whether we are 7 or 67.

But just as we began to get into our groove – not long after we learn to communicate, discover our options, and gain some life experience – a powerful force (times two, in most cases) started to take shape in our lives. These two very powerful, very large forces were the key to our very existence. They provided the home in which we got our most basic needs met: shelter and food. These two “giants” – who that permeated every second of our existence – were, of course, our PARENTS.

Parents almost always have good intentions, and almost always are a great contribution in our lives, beyond just keeping us alive. But for all of the good they are, parents are often the biggest challenge to our growing up to live out our dreams with that very early, very core set of very personal preferences … our core values.

You see, most parents missed Parenting 101, Childhood Psychology 102 and Authenticity 103 in school. They missed them because they do not exist. Parenting in our society usually follows the model of nature. It is expected to just be instinctive.

One instinct, which is certainly admirable, is wanting our children to be the best they can be … to be smart, strong, and successful. More insidious, is our desire for our children to be “right.” And what better way for them to be “right”, than for them to be just like us. So early on, parents set out to make sure their children become just like them – with the right beliefs, the right habits, the right ethics, the right skills, hobbies, careers, religions; and even the right sports teams.

You may remember the relentless insistence that, as a child, you were expected by your parents to do things this way or that, see things this way or that, say things this way or that. Some of those lessons are so deeply ingrained they sing to us even today, like some old nursery rhymes. These are called imposed values.

Parents, with their inherent power and the barter of food and shelter, are no match for young children with nothing but naturally developed preferences. This creates an unavoidable conflict between imposed versus core values.

And so the process of becoming inauthentic begins. It began with the very first “should.” You should do this (in other words, you better do this, or else!). We learned to push our core values deeper inside of us … hiding them away for a safer day to play. We kept putting on the clothes laid out for us every morning and every night … the clothes we should wear. The clothes we must wear, or else. Layer after layer of who we should be—to be right, and to be acceptable, and to be loved. Each layer stole more and more of our spiritual self, our natural free-flowing essence … our power.

Sadly, even after our parents have passed, many of us live in fear of disappointing them. Can you see how insidious and powerful that internal programming is?

So how do you start to take off the layers of your parents’ hand-me-down clothes? The path of personal development is a path of authenticity. Authenticity is simply rediscovering and liberating our core values. Sometimes they are the same as some of our parents’. And always, there are suppressed core values dying to be freed.

The more you and I live our lives to the tune of our own drummer, the more authentic, peaceful, and powerful we are.

To support you in rediscovering your core values, I ask that you honestly answer the following questions:

  • Who would you choose to be and what would you love to do if there was no one (not any one … not your parents, grandparents, respected teachers, colleagues, friends, etc.) to stand in judgment?
  • What would you wear? What hobbies would you embrace? How would you spend your time and money?

In other words, who would you be if you had the full permission of everyone who loved you? Almost always, we would be someone different than who we are. Now, quietly and alone, begin to sculpt your authentic self – not from who you are now, but from who you are at the core. Peel off the layers. Let the Magnificent You shine through. Describe the Magnificent You in detail; write it down.

  • How do you look?
  • How do you feel?
  • What do you love to do and how do you do it?
  • What is truly important to you?
  • What sets you free?
  • What makes you feel your very best?
  • What allows you to love freely?
  • What inspires and sets you on your path to greatness?
  • Write it all in the present tense, creating positive images with your words. Affirm it. Read it daily. Gather pictures, and music, and quotes to support it. Study it like you did your nursery rhymes as a kid … the songs and poems you learned by heart.

Think about what “by heart” means. It becomes part of who we are, existing in every cell of our body, laced throughout our spirit.

This process works to peel off the layers of “others’ visions for you” and expose the true essence of you. It works because the process of visualizing the new you—regardless of your mindless internal chatter about it—over time trains your emotional, spiritual and unconscious self to believe and accept it.

It works because it is merely training the powerful part of you to shine again. It is already in there, always has been, covered up by a thousand wet blankets.

My greatest mentor told me in the late 70s that all personal power comes from self-honesty. I see authenticity as the same thing. Allowing ourselves to be the “real deal” lets our personal power run wild. It is an extraordinary process of rebirthing, if you will. This is one you can try at home.

– Richard